wisdom from the father

"I imagine that a big part of your aching comes from hearing MANY voices inside: do this, do that; be true to yourself, be flexible; look at the larger picture, add up the details; don't compromise your independence, don't undervalue your connectedness; step back, step forward; push, relax; hold your breath, breathe....

Whatever the voices say, it's not about an incapacity to love...it's more about mechanics - negotiating differences to avoid unnecessary conflict, and negotiating conflicts so as not to exacerbate differences...what you are creating - and searching for at the same time - is worth the struggle, no matter the outcome. Happiness, I'm convinced, is ultimately a product of bravery."